Envy at your workplace, does it bother you? Or you just carry your head high and pretend it doesn't exist? How do you cope when you experience this? Do you have a co-worker who always feels you are the favourite at work and that your ideas are always the best and so they take out an hatred or dislike for you? Sometimes they might go as far as setting you up subtly or putting you on the spot just to see if they can get a good swing behind your back. That means you have sure had a first hand experience of envy at the workplace. Another clear name for envy is jealousy, this might sound even more common as most people jokingly say this a couple of times, so don't get swayed when some persons might use a different terminology in analysing the topic before us.**
Where can you be Envied?
Envy or Jealousy happens everywhere and its even worse in business and workplace as you can't even avoid them except you have plans to resign or probably retire from work. You meet them on each workday and then during board meetings and even office gatherings, they come with their families and you find out they have told their families about you. You can guess how the envy pipeline will now be flowing as everyone will have solid reasons to envy you clearly due to what they have been clearly told by your co-worker.
You might be wondering if envy can also be in the home, the answer is what you already. Your sister or brother might be envious of you, the crazy part of this is that you might not even be aware of this at all. Just imagine your siblings being jealous of you and you're absolutely not aware of that. That itself might ring danger for you, and all manner of honesty sibling jealousy never ends well. Its nothing compared to sibling rivalry which is more child-like and playful in nature. Sibling rivalry is mostly experienced in kids and once it gets to their adult phase they might have bonded, so they rivalry they would be having would be a healthy one based of love and best wishes for each other.
Common Causes of Envy
You might say you have done nothing wrong for you to be envied, but it goes far than your voluntary actions as it could be your involuntary actions that is being judged by the panel judges before thee. An example of a business case might be coming from having more customer patronage or better pricing or superior products or services. You can imagine this, quite involuntary because you're just being your regular self without being watched or acting a script. It could be that you're meeting the company target faster which might start making others look at you with disdain that you're taking all their shine, therefore they should gang up or make you have a solid downfall that will ruin or tarnish your great record and get you sanctioned if not fired. This is how far people who have dislike or envy you can go just to either get even with you or make you sad and teary so they can have a good laugh of satisfaction. This is because once you're having more customer patronage than another there's bound to be jealousy or envy from another around you. In most cases, people go to the extent of poisoning of their colleagues thats why you must be careful around people with any atom of envy or have any tendency of showing sign of that because they could be hiding their true intentions about you behind their grins and smiles. Let's take a stroll in the family setting and draw some analysis. Lets take an example when your dad got your favourite colour of shoes or dress for you on your birthday but coincidentally on your other siblings birthday celebration he was too broke due to debts so he couldn't afford to get anything for them. Automatically they will now feel you are being favoured compared to them and you will be the object of envy. The most prevalent when a particular sibling is special to one of the parents compared to the another and this point we will be having a whole family gang up and if not detected and resolved early it can split up the family. Thats why in most cases of divorce a particular child wants custodial authority to a preferred parent because of thw preferential treatment he or she gets from that parent. This can be overlooked if not closely analysed as it can stem from favouritism then the other members of the family gradually become envious of the favoured child. This is exactly what happened to Joseph in the Holy bible due to his dreams and the father crowned it by giving him a special coat of many colours, most persons are acquainted with the story of how he gets sold to slaves and lied to their parents that Joseph that was eaten by a wild animal. Thats the extent envy that push many into a family setting, so its not a matter to be treated with a pinch of salt as it grows within into a snare of sorrow.
How to Defeat People who Envy You
Defeat might not be the best phrase because to defeat anyone who envies you, that means you will likely to get down the mud with them and likely fight dirty which is highly. I think the best phrase that will go with will be overcoming envy that's more realistic without having to stoop low to their level of deceit and hatred. This clearly involves having to be smarter and never give them any opportunity to gloat over you or gain some devious satisfaction as you put your face down in disappointment or sadness.
You definitely have to let go of some benefits on the table and avoid dragging or being at their mercy else they will gladly take a perfect advantage of you without looking back or pitying you. Surviving through this phase without playing dirty with them you'll have to make tough sacrifices and be extra careful in your utterances, tasks completions and other obligations you might have to carry out and be sure they are devoid of errors or omissions whatsoever. What you're looking at is now becoming Mr or Miss Perfect, yeah. You have to be stainless because you have vultures at the roof waiting for you to show flesh so they can feast aggressively on you and make a show of you to satisfy their envy that you have never been worth the appreciation you have been getting. It might be a difficult situation you have been abandoned in but its worth it else you will gradually become the image you hated most and you will become a shadow of yourself that you won't recognise anymore.
So just keep doing your best and be your version both in the presence and absence of the boss without wavering. I'll end this by saying that you should Act the better person till you Become IT.
You can also defeat Envy anywhere, be it at work, business or family. Just keep this tips close to you always and make them your tenets to abide by. I believe in you to succeed and not fall into their traps.
Lets close with this, a wordings from the Holy Bible Matthew 13: 25 and it says,” But while men slept, his enemy came and sowed lares among the wheat, and went his way”. Don't oversleep.